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Monday, February 22, 2010 @ 11:47 PM
Third Party Issues Okay before I decides to whip up Maggie Curry, I'm gonna squeeze in an entry. Bear with me okay as I might get cranky along the way. Or suddenly end everything in an abrupt manner. It has been like this for years for me. I love my blog entries. Be it crappy or full with useless information or simply out to diss the entire galaxy, I still love blogging. Come to think of it, I've been blogging since I was in poly and that was about a good 6 7 years? Wow...and I am still actively writing. Bravo to me! Love hasn't been kind to me for the past 4 years. I am trying hard to not to whine thru' those 48 months but it was very tortorous ok. It tortures the damn soul and self-esteem thank you very much. It drove me to the point on the thought of being gay, GOD forgive this sin of mine. Very emotion F-ed up I tell ya. But as of late, things has been looking up. After years of not feeling of a woman's lips on my lips, I get one. A very beautiful yet surreal and super duper extraordinary woman. You can say we go way back. Up to 7 years ago? But that would be another story altogether which I would definitely share one day, insyallah. Being in love is so great and all but it will definitely leave you vulnerable to heartbreaks, unnecessary worries, arguments and plenty of chances to cry over something. That's the catch for having the best feeling in the world. You tend to be weak and your happiness is no longer controlled by you. But like it or not, that's the order of life right. Third party. That's the thing I am driving at tonight. It has been the case of most breakups that we are aware of. Two person in love and then up comes another person, declares an interest in one of them and then woo him/her and literally shakes the stability of the love structure of the couple. If the couple is strong enough and have that faith and trust that they built during their relationship, they will survive the whole saga. But what happens when one of them crumbles?? We both know how lethal is that blow... I have been thru' my fair share of third parties. And lemme emphasize this point ok. IT IS NOT FUN. NOT FUN to be at the receiving end of the stick. The way that blow comes to you when your other half's loyalty swayed towards the direction of the third party is really intense and immensely painful. I may have recovered from the wounds of yesterday but the scars are there. Memories of it all are like archived and when retrieved....damn it is like opening a huge cans of worms. So why do couples at times FAIL to overcome third party and why does third party choose to disrupt a beautiful relationship?? There are a million answers to both questions. Really. There isn't any wrong or right answer but it all boils down to how strong is the relationship between the initial couple.. I am actually getting sick of typing "third party"....so I'll just use the initials, TP. Does an individual leave a person whom they fell in love in the first place for the TP? Obviously the main cliche reason would be the TP is a better match. Maybe the TP is better looking, more financially secure, knows how to soften up someone's heart, etc. So in that sense, does one keep looking out for a better candidate thru' life?? And why does one can't stay true to that first person he/she starts a journey with. It is really a very complicated matter to think about but in real cold hard fact, things are pretty simple. It is either you love someone and stay loyal, or you love someone temporarily before moving on (like doing a temporary job while looking for a permanent job) or do you simply bring the person on a wild goose chase only to drop him like a piece of rock? Go figure... Whatever it is, TP issues never ends well for at LEAST one of them. One of them is sure hell gonna get hurt. His/Her course of life is gonna be altered forever, no doubt about that. I wished for TP issues to be non a existence fact in life. But we all know that that is imposibble. My true advice would be, when you love someone, please really do love them. And if you are a million percent deadly sure that the person you are with is your partner for life...please swipe away all TP which comes swooping by. We all know that when TP initiates and we don't react to any of their movements or lead them on, nothing would happen and everything would be fine. Think about this ok. I'm really hungry now. Food and then sleep. Work tomorrow. Sucks big time. But I got no choice. Have to work. Else I can't get engage and marry my beautiful girlfriend. LOL! Have a good night sleep lovelies!! xoxoxo, AJ Thank you so much for reading you all. And since you are already down here, PLEASE VOTE for who do you prefer to listen to for next month. Aite?? Mucho loves! |