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Friday, January 9, 2009 @ 3:42 PM
Third Party Isn't An Issue If you're happy for a friend who has started a new relationship, be sure to show it. That's what my horoscope says for today. Now my question is, which one of you my darlings is in love without me knowing huh huh?! Tell me quick so that I can make arrangements to throw confettis the next time we meet! Hehehe! On the topic of relationship...*ahem ahem*. Now I know you might be rolling your eyes a full 360 countless times this very moment but I need to get this whole issue outta my chest. Really do. Argue all you want, denunciate me for every letters in this post but my personal point of view stands. Here we go. This kinda like more to I'm speaking from a male's point of view here. But ladies, you lemme know your thoughts too ok? Hee. What course of action do you take when the girl you like or fell in love with, is seeing someone? Worst case scenario, attached to someone? Would you do the so-called "right" thing and take a step back and look at other directions? OR would you STILL pursue her like as if she is single? I understand how delicate this issue could be. The whole conscience plus karma will starts to kick in into that gut feeling of yours. That guilt. BUT isn't it right that each individual person on the face of this planet is entitled the right to find and fight for their own happiness? Even though it means doing so at the expense of someone else's smile? Thinking about this, brings a whole lot of memories to me. Equally good and bad ones. Like all of you have figured out, a relationship takes two parties to unite and become one. Right? So what happens when a third party comes in. Let's call this third party is Boy A. And the couple is Boy B and Girl C. So Boy A comes into the frame, fell in love with Girl C but even though he knows that Girl C is attached to Boy B, he does what naturally comes into a male mind. Try to impress, try to woo her away to be in his corner. Doesn't matter how far evolution has played a part in the current world we're living in. We only changed in terms of technology, looks and speech. Apart from that, our natural instinct of being a male and a female species is still intact within us. Go ponder... With that in mind, you tell me. Does Boy A has the right to attract the girl? In my opinion, if he IS the better man, why not? I mean, a better man doesn't need to perfect in every single aspect. The very definition of perfect is looked at differently by different people. For EXAMPLE, my definition of a perfect girl is someone whois fair and a nice smile but my bestie Nas's definition, is someone whois dark and a nice smile. One word make a whole ladda difference. Again I underline the word EXAMPLE. Else there would be morons slamming their mouse already spitting cursed vocabs on their monitor. Pathetic. Back to the chase. When Boy A decide to flex his muscle and attempts to attract Girl C, shouldn't it be Boy B's call to flex his muscle too? I've been watching boys and girls in relationship for the past years. And typically ya know...boys would go over their limit, across the sea of fire, into the lions dens, the alligator's pond, you named it. JUST to attract the girl. Then the girl is impressed and she bestowed him as the man in her life. Her knight in shining armor. And then that's it. The man gets the girl and just close shop and stop impressing her anymore. Then when it came to fights, he will say "if I don't love you, back then would I do this that blah blah" and talked all thru the daylight until the cows comes home. Girls, aren't you sick of living in a moment of the past? Hmmm, I can't figure out why the male can go to a so much of an effort to impress a girl BUT he can't do the same in order to keep her. Correct me if I'm mistaken. A woman is always on the lookout for that eligible bachelor who can keep the flame of their love alive forever. True? It isn't wrong for someone to do that. It's NATURAL. Let's use a metaphor here. You have a career paying about $2000 per month and you are happy. What happens when another offer came along paying you $3000 a month and it's not any job, it is something that you have been dreaming to do since you are a kid. Example, a pilot. Is it reasonable and rational that you leave your 2k job and jumped the wagon of a 3k dream job? If you're happy, won't you be VERY happy if you did so? Same goes to a new man who can be a better boyfriend than your current one. UNLESS the current boyfriend brings his big guns into play. And I'm not saying making phonecalls to friends to whack the new boy up. Nah'uh. He is a total WUSS if he does that. What I'm saying is, the current boyfriend could start by showing the girlfriend, why did she fell in love with him in the first place. It takes great effort to stay in love. No doubt bout that. Okay? Personally, I think I've touched on most of the issue I would like to address. Summary. Ya know, if you like someone or you love someone, go for it. Her status is secondary. This is ok UNLESS she or he told you to back away. Meaning she has found her perfect soulmate. Then you take that reluctant step back. It is alrite to concede defeat knowing that you've tried. Nothing to be ashamed of, really. Don't worry about karma. The only reason people worry about karma is because they don't have enough faith in themselves to make the right choices in life. Cause your choice determines how your future and destiny pans out. Not karma. So that's why I have always said, time and time again, you always have a choice, make the right one. I'm tired of typing this much already. I'm gonna hop over to jobstreet and flood employer's with my resumes. It is a frideedaideedaidee dayy. So, most of you will be out there shouting TGIF? I supposed soo. Just be safe and stay off the wheels if you're gonna get tipsy ok. Apologies to anyone; just in case the word above put you in major discomfort and insecurity. Whatever you wanna say bout me; You know I will still love you... xoxo, AJ Thank you so much for reading you all. And since you are already down here, PLEASE VOTE for who do you prefer to listen to for next month. Aite?? Mucho loves! |